63. Motherhood by Souad Habka Jabre

Interview 63

  1. Please introduce yourself: Name, what do you do & how many children you have.

My name is Souad Habka Jabre I am a journalist and I currently work at MBC for a medical Lifestyle show called green apple. I have two kids, Sherif 3 years old and Gloria 4 months’ old

  1. What is your biggest accomplishment in life?

I consider having kids at a young age is my biggest accomplishment in life. I was 23 when I first held Sherif in my arm. I remember people asking me are you ready to become a mum? There is no book or class out there to prepare you for the adventures you are about to endure as a parent. You will never be ready until they give you the baby. Suddenly the things that may have seemed so “big” before shrink down and we realize what truly matters. It taught me more about myself than I ever thought I needed to know.

3. I am a Mum and… 

I still enjoy life. Yes, it does take a lot more planning. You need to schedule your date nights and time with friends in advance but being a mother doesn’t mean you’re stuck at home watching a DVD .Although sometimes when you’re exhausted, that’s all what you’ll want to do.

4.Who inspires you and why?

My Husband… My inspiration. My mind used to get pretty active and I often used to spend useless time worrying about things. Not Marwan, He repeatedly chooses happiness over worry and it inspires me every time he does it. We all have moments where we get in our heads. These times when you with self-doubt everything. We second-guess our talents, our actions, our this, our that. When I do that He takes the doubt and washes it away and reminds me that I am great just the way I am. Not to mention  the HUGE support he gives me with raising the kids in order not to feel overwhelmed with my work pressure. I’m blessed to have him as husband and I’m sure that my kids will be proud of him.

  1. Given we are all about embracing Motherhood, what advice would you give a first time Mum?

There are times where you feel overwhelmed and worried, but it’s a learning process. Motherly duties and tasks become second nature.

  1. Tell us something people don’t know about you.

I still can’t get over my C section scar especially that a surgery wasn’t a choice for me. I’m teaching myself to accept it and remember what a beautiful princess it brought me and I’m sure that with time I will laugh while reading this interview again.

  1. What has been your biggest parenting challenge you had to face with so far?

Sickness. I still can’t get over the situation of seeing my children shaking in bed because of the fever. I hardly try to use all my patience skills but I end up scanning their fever for 30 times in10 minutes just to see if it’s cooling down. Suddenly seeing a 37.0C is all what I want in this world.

  1. How do you juggle work, life balance?

Being a working mother does mean that you don’t spend as much time as you wish with your child. I’m not going to lie. Having to care for another person makes it a lot more difficult to do things for yourself and you have to make a lot of sacrifices concerning your work and the growth of your career. I prepared myself to the idea that my career growth will slow down the coming years and my income will be affected. It was okay for me as long as I don’t become the mother who sees her children for one hour a day and I can still practice my lifetime passion of being a journalist. However, becoming a parent gave me motivation no one can understandIt taught me to organize my time. At the end of the day, you want to be a better person so your child can have all he or she needs, so you work ten times harder to get where you want to be. The most important thing is not to get used to work and to be far from them… it can become a habit… And this habit can kill your special relation with your kids. Your children should be your very first priority and not your work. Our kids need us especially in their first years. Yes quality time is important but it’s not everything. We need to know their needs, what is happening with them on daily basis, what make them happy, sad, scared, and worried. What they are eating, their favorite games, invite their best friends, take them to play dates… we need to sculpt their personality and no one can do it better than a Mother.

  1. What are your passions in life and hobbies and do you still make time for them now that you are a Mother?

Writing and travelling. Writing doesn’t need any specific space or time and my work includes a lot of challenges in terms of scripts writings so I still enjoy it every day in my life. Travelling…I went to 7 times per year to barely 1 or even 0. My choices of destinations now are different and I can’t allow myself to take a lot of risks and to be far from my kids for a longtime.

  1. Finally, what do you love most about Mums in Beirut?

Its REAL talk. There are plenty of blogs and website where family expert and life coaches bombard you with studies and tells you how you should raise your kids, how to be the perfect mother but it can be sometimes so unreal and unpractical. Every time I read an interview on mumsinbeirut I feel like someone is talking about me, other times very different from me, but each time it inspires me effortlessly.